It’s all about the sex! It’s something a girlfriend of mine had told me once as we were talking about “things”. You know… How every conversation friends have, inevitably turns to food and sex?
Lots of people have misgivings about sex. Some love it and cannot do without; some don’t, or don’t even like doing it. And as I am writing this article, I am reminded of something else I heard, this time from my Dad (yes! My Dad was an awesome guy).
You need to become as skilful in bed as you possibly can. And when your man is fully sated, sit him down for the best meal in his life. When you can do those things, you will fully understand the bliss that a marriage can bring!
Of course the feminists amongst you may take this advice as yet another proof that men think that women are placed on this earth to serve them, and yet this is the furthest thing from the truth!
I have taken my Dad’s advice to heart, and I am a mean cook, and in bed… Well I’m really, really good. And let me tell you that have become the Mistress in the bedroom as well as in the kitchen, there is nothing my man won’t do to please me.
So here’s my advice to you sister…
Be REALLY sexual with your partner, have sex that takes his breath away, take the lead, control, cajole, enchant. Make him YOURS. Hungry. For more. For YOU. Always. Push the envelope one kiss at the time. Make him miss you the moment he leaves the house. Miss YOU. Think about how he would love to make love and have sex with you for hours.
But… Always stay in control. Feed his needs, a little at the time. Always leaving something for later. Use your imagination. Role Play. Orgasm Control. You have no idea what a man will do, how he will behave if you bring him to the boil and then stop. Right before. Become assertive. Act as if its’ a game, but consolidate your Dominance gradually. In the beginning he’ll think it’s all a game. Once he is out of the bedroom, he will resume his alpha status. But as you refine your skills, making him desire you more, want you more, he will become more dependent, hopeful, and submissive.
SUBMISSIVE! To you. A D/s relationship in which YOU are the Dominant and your husband the sub is worth the effort and can bring unimaginable rewards.
Does it always have to be about the dynamics of a D/s relationship then?
Not at all. As a Dominant Woman, I love to switch! That means that there are times when I will willingly submit to him. He will be the D and I the s. There is no guideline as to when this happens, but we both love it when we switch roles.
Harmony in a couple is having the right balance between Dominant and sub, and anyone who wishes to be a Dominant must first learn to be s submissive.