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I Am A Dominant Wife – And Little Hubby Man Loves It

My little husband always knew that I was a dominant woman. After all, I am the one who seduced him one evening at our local pub, and I have been in control of him ever since. Being dominant comes easily for me. You could say it’s in my nature to dominate and little hubby man loved everything about it. He loved the reversal of roles and was uniquely turned on by the idea that as a dominant female, I was the “predator” and he the “prey”.

It was the best of both worlds for us. I am Top, my favorite position, and he is bottom, also a favorite of mine. But anyone who’s experimented with the whole Dominance / submissive lifestyle will tell you that is an ongoing learning process, both for the person who submits, but also, (even more so perhaps), for the person who is in control. And this process also requires that both parties, on occasions, switch roles, so that from time to time, when either my little hubby man feels more dominant or I become willing to be his “submissive little girl” for a couple of hours, we do switch. It’s a unique experience which enables us to keep our perspective intact and gives us a wonderful insight into what it is that makes us who we are.

If anything, these “switching” experiments confirm that I just love to be in control, and I am really comfortable with being who I am. A really dominant woman. As for the little hubby man of mine, assuming the ephemeral role of dominance only to relinquish it shortly thereafter re-affirms what he has always known, after he met me. He loves to feel my power, my control and the aftermath of those reversals always brings about the more intense sex we ever have.

It is when he returns to being what he was born to be, that my husband tells me he wants me to take even more complete control over him. I suppose it is a natural reaction, as if his mind is telling him off for the fact that he tried to be someone he is not meant to be. Even as part of role play which we indulge in during our power exchange games. It is a very sweet time for me as well since he becomes much more subservient then he already is, treats me like his main purpose in life is to serve me, which women are are dominant will tell you they are of course entitled to.

It is also after one of those sessions that I introduced him to bondage for the first time. And to pain, as a reward for being such a good little hubby boy! Bondage and pain, in our case always comes with sex, but sex, as any BDSM couple will tell you, is not the main reason why people who are in that lifestyle indulge in this delicious activity. In fact, I know couples who are really into BDSM and for whom sex (or sexual / physical gratification) in not the driving force in their relationship.

Still for this dominant woman, and her little hubby man, sex is definitely something we love to have, and in our case, BDSM is something we use to make things more “challenging”.

So yes! Being me is really lovely.  And little hubby loves me for it.

Confessions of a Dominant Woman

Dominatrix_on_TrialThere is a common misconception about Dominant Women. It’s probably fed by the idea society has of the Dominatrix in black leather, wielding a whip as she surveys her kingdom, popping into her dungeon where her submissive male wiggles in anticipation of the pain that has drawn him to Mistress in the first place, and then having administered her dominance over him, walks out of the dungeon, leaving him behind, all beaten and tied up. Diminished, humiliated, happy. Her task temporarily completed. For the moment at least…

The only leather outfit I have are a pair of wicked black boots, and a pair of leather trousers that I have been known to wear to parties and what not. That’s about it, but then again, I am not a Dominatrix, people don’t pay me lots of money to be whipped, tied, humiliated, dominated…

Besides, I wouldn’t like being a Dominatrix because this would imply that there would be no sex between my subs and I! No! This would NOT be good for me. I am too sensual, too sexual for that. Still… I can be as Sadistic as my sub requires!

I am a Domme and my male partner is a sub. And no we don’t have a private dungeon, although we do have lots of toys and tools that one might find in said dungeon. We both LOVE BDSM…

And as a result, have lots of sex… (notice the “as a result” part of that statement though, because it is an important part.)

As the leader in our relationship, I embrace my dominance and truly enjoy it. The truth is, I love to be in control of myself and my surroundings, and that includes the men that I choose to share my life with.

Since I am talking about relationship, I am only ever in a monogamous relationship with one person. I don’t do swinging, am not poly amorous, don’t have extra marital affairs. I am a one woman one man type of gal and the only difference is that ours is a D/s type of a relationship. (More on this later)

As a rule, a Dominant person can ever be truly dominant if there is the right chemistry between her and her sub. And whilst I am breaking the prisms of conventional wisdom, a submissive is nobody’s doormat either. My sub is very independent, strong-willed, even stubborn and supremely confident in whom he is.

A sub is not a slave although a submissive who is well trained will do anything to please his Mistress. And he will do so willingly. I don’t coerce my sub to do anything. I encourage him, and the rest is up to him.

Submission doesn’t come from weakness, stupidity or material needs. It can only happen as the result of the opening of one’s soul, the willingness to become vulnerable and exposed. When a person submits to another, when my sub submits to me, he is entrusting himself to me entirely. There is no greater gift that he could give me than his gift of trust and the service and devotion (his!) that ensues.

A Dominant Woman, Domme, is a person who has supreme sense of self confidence, who is capable of taking control but is not a control freak, without being a jerk or a bully. There is a difference between being a true Dominant and domineering.

As a Domme, I have been known to tie my man up, bring the toys out, the whips and what not, but that is not all that a Dominant Female is. (More on sex in a D/s relationship later)

Does A Woman Need To Be Dominant To Learn About The Secrets Of Submission?

Dominant WomanDominant Women (alpha women) are becoming more and more popular these days. From the rise of the Iron Lady to the advent of political and dominating ladies who willfully chew anyone for breakfast (from both parties), Dominant women are certainly on the rise. And not just in the political realm. Sexual Female Dominance is also becoming increasingly fashionable and the sexually Dominant Woman seems to have become a very sought after person in dating circles.

There is an inherently exhilarating element in the discovery (and practice!) of safe and fun erotic female dominance over man and it is precisely what Miss Young sets out to unleash in her most exquisite course!

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But does a woman need to be naturally Dominant (born as a Dominant), in order to learn about the Secrets of Submission, or can these extraordinarily powerful techniques be taught to any woman, even those amongst us who are naturally submissive?

In other words, can any woman be taught to be an alpha woman?

It is an interesting question and my own view is that as a general rule, females are born to be the dominant force.  Historical circumstances (we know what they are) have meant that women have had to show submission in order to survive in male dominated societies, but that does not mean that they were inherently submissive.  As a survival mechanism, their dominating side was disguised but if there is anything a woman is particularly adept at doing, it is to adjust to circumstances and some women, even the more “submissive” ones have long ago learned that even the most powerful men can be sexually “ruled”.

And here comes the really wonderful part, once a woman becomes knowledgeable about how to sexually dominate her man, her control over him inevitably extends way past the confines of their bedroom.

All she needs is to be told what to do, and her nature will always do the rest.

So, in this article, I have not tried to define how to find a Dominant (alpha) woman, besides most of readers are females, but rather how any woman can re-discover her own natural Dominance.

One of the questions women ask me is why would any woman want to be sexually dominant, what’s in it for them, and why would any man even accept to become the submissive partner in this erotic dominance play.

I will address these issues in later articles, but suffice to say that I don’t know of any man who having been a relationship with a Dominant woman who knows all about the Secrets of Submission would want anything else.

Let me say this another way.  Once YOU become the expert in the three techniques taught in the Miss Ivy Young’s exhilarating book, your man will not want to go back.  Not only that, he will have been so entirely smitten by your sexual dominance that his devotion to you will know no boundaries!

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And as you read through the articles on this site and get yourself ready to take the next step and order the course for yourself, you may question your husband’s willingness to even keep an open mind and try these techniques.

That would of course be a valid point, but here is the truly wonderful part.  He will be transformed in a loving, sexual thang, intent on pleasing you, and won’t even realize it.

You see, all men, even the most powerful leaders, love to be sexually submissive.  They just don’t know that they do.

So give it a go, there is a sixty day refund guarantee if you are not satisfied, but my challenge to you is that once you start to enjoy the enormous and exquisite advantages that come with the Secrets of Submission, you will wonder how on earth you were able to cope without.

The truth is of course that you weren’t, you wouldn’t be here right now, if you were. Nor would you be contemplating taking this course if your relationship was all that it could be!

In a next article I will talk about what erotic sexual dominance is and give my two cents to the concept of male submission and the wonderful qualities of submissive boyfriends (husbands).

In the meantime…  To the Dominant Queen in you, my dear female reader…

 

 

When Should a Woman Learn The Secrets of Submission?

Discover The Secrets of Submission2As a woman, you wouldn’t be on this site if you were completely happy with your relationship (marriage).  I know that there isn’t probably one couple out there who can claim that they are living the perfect bliss, (would it be even that interesting if it was possible?) but the sad truth is that for a large majority of couples who have been together for more than a few years bliss is the furthest thing there is from their (your?) reality.

Indeed, for countless men and women, intimacy has become a forgotten word and as for sex, well…

So if you are perfectly happy with your sexual life with your husband, and you think that adding extra spice wouldn’t change anything, then, girlfriend, you are indeed a happy woman!  And… Congratulations!  Tell us how you have done it!

Or is it that you already know the delicious thrills the Secrets of Submission can bring to a couple?

Still reading?  Well then… You have work to do!

In the own words of Miss Ivy Young, Licensed Sex Therapist and Los Angeles Top Dominatrix…

Let’s be honest here…

Your sex life is DEAD

Your partner doesn’t look at you the way that he used to…

You are bored in the bedroom…

And sometimes…

In the middle of sex…

You find yourself wondering about other things…

Hoping that your partner would just hurry up and finish…

So you can roll back and go to sleep…

Your sex life is boring and uninspired…

And you don’t feel connected to your partner any more…

In any way…

Sometimes you feel angry and even resentful…

Because you are not getting the attention

The passion

The love

The respect that you need…

And you deserve

In your own relationship…

Sometimes, you even feel alone

In your relationship with your partner…

And that is the loneliest feeling of all…

When you are alone…

And you are with someone who you are not getting…

That love from…

Not getting that attention from…

Not getting that super hot sex from…

That you’ve had before

 That you know is possible..

You want so desperately to have again!

If what you have just read describes how YOU feel about your relationship with your own man, then right now is the time you should learn the Secrets of Submission!  You shouldn’t even hesitate.

One of two things will happen when you purchase the trend setting book from Miss Young:

  • You will discover it’s not for you and you will have up 60 days to get a full refund from Clickbank!
  • You and your husband will absolutely love it

Two easy outcomes, no risks, and the rewards might even save your marriage!

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Is this book only for women who are naturally Dominant?