Whenever I speak about male submission, particularly to my married couple friends, I always get the same reaction as if to say that male submission is really an impossibility and (clearly), I am taking my fantasies for realities.

It’s funny really because whiles the men will snicker and make derisory comments, it’s really quite palpable that deep down they know exactly which side the are really on.  In other words, they know who the submissive is in their relationship but are unwilling to say it out loud.

Now let me be clear about this.  Not all men are submissive.  There are indeed some men who exhibit inherent dominant attributes, but in my personal experience give me any man, and eventually I’ll have him “eating out my hand!.  And the only reason for that is well… Basically, intrinsically, men can be manipulated, controlled to do just about anything a woman wants, and that control begins in bed.

Yes, that’s right.  It’s always about the sex!  Control your man in bed, use all the tools at your disposal and you, my female friend, will be the Queen of your domain, including your man!

So yes… Even if not all men are submissive by nature, you can bet your darned strapon that all men have it within themselves to be just that.  Male Submission is a wonderful thing, especially when you hitherto Dominant male agrees to become your slave!

But what is a slave in this context?

Of course, far from me to evoke imagery of times gone by (thankfully), but in Dominant / sub relationships a male slave is a person who enjoys the dynamics that this particular (D/s) lifestyle provides them with.  They love to be treated as a “sub-human” so to speak, a person who’s status is lower than that of his Dominant “owner”.

Not all male subs are slaves of course, and in fact some of my subs don’t like this label one bit. Likewise for that other word that I sometime use: The Worm! Now I have to confess that there very few instances when I will call any of my subs a “worm” unless the right circumstances call for it.

How a slave behaves and how does a Dominant expect her slave to behave varies from Woman to Woman of course.

For some who are not in the D/s lifestyle, any expected behavior on the part of the slave is always confined to sexuality.  In that context, the male is merely a sub, and not a slave (or worm).  Calling my lover a slave and a worm during sex is highly erotic though, both for “it” and for me as well.  Why else would I even bother?

But in a real D/s lifestyle, a slave might have a set of rules that he is bound to obey.  Mine include tough guidelines. For example:

1. Slave accepts that his life will be lead and controlled exclusively by me, his Dominant Woman.
2. Slave will help as much as it can with the decisions pertaining to the running of the household.
3. Slave will not sit on furniture unless specifically authorized to do so.
4. Slave will find the appropriate balance between proper and abject submission.

etc….

I personally have 17 rules that any slave of mine has to sign on before I take him on as a slave.  Indeed with me Male Submission has to be earned.  Any man can be submissive.  True male submission is a form of art, as close to perfection as possible.

The difference(s) between a slave and a worm

To the uninitiated this might sound like a crazy question, but if you are reading this article, you are either:

• A woman interested in becoming a Dominant
• A submissive man

So here are the things that I would do to a worm, and not necessarily a slave.

1. Treat “it” with disdain
2. Confine him to lay on the floor
3. Kick “it” – yes, even its private part

Or course there are hard limits… There are lines that can never be crossed. A Dominant Woman must never harm her worm.  Breaking bones is a big no no in any BDSM setup.  And there are soft limits as well,  mostly insisted upon by the worms themselves.  Like certain actions, particularly in the bathroom, and there are men who are very much into male submission who will only accept to submit to one person only (The Mistress) and not to any other Dominant men or women she might be friends or intimate with.

I a next article I will taking about why submissive men want to be a slave or even a worm.

In the meantime, i hope this article has answered at least some of your question. I you have a particular question you would like me answer, please post it in the comment section below.