I received this really interesting letter the other day.  It’s from a man who wants to be called Dereckt.  (no, there is no spelling mistake in that word, this is who he wants to be knows as).

Of course, I know his real identity, and so does his wife, and my feeling is that she must be a very happy wife to have a man calling himself so interestingly…

So here it is, in all it’s entirety, and with “Dereckt” permission and the permission of the one who makes all the decisions <wink>, his wife… I give you”:

What it means to be a submissive male

It takes an act of faith for a man to admit that he is submissive to his wife…  It’s not easy for anyone, (let alone a traditional male like myself) NOT to behave the way that society expects him to behave. But then again, nothing is ever easy…

I remember how she made me feel, my wife, the first time she told me that I was born to be submissive to her. And when in the course of that very fateful conversation, when she went beyond even that, looked me straight in the eyes, with that angelic and innocent face of hers and told me that from now I would be “her own sexy bitch” as well, I remember thinking that is exactly what I wanted to be, and I never knew.  A submissive who is a bitch to his wife.  How about that!

You’ve go to understand.  Men fantasize about being with assertive women, but there is a difference between a woman who is aggressive in the bedroom and a woman who tells you as a matter of fact that from now on, not only will you be her submissive male, but her own sex bitch to boot as well.  You see, men don’t want to be anyone’s bitch.  It’s just not what they do…  A man who is a bitch is the ultimate “non-man” so to speak.  The opposite of a real male.  But when my wife called me that for the first time some 4 years ago,  putting together those two words: submissive and bitch and applied them to me in relation to her, it struck a chord, turned me on like I had never been turned on before, and changed my life…  For the better.

You see, it takes guts for any woman to go against everything she’s ever been taught and assert her sexual dominance over her man, in the manner that she did with me.  Some women take control over their men as part of a gradual process, over a period of time during which, by their actions in the bedroom, they are able to become the Dominant party.  But my wife did it her own way…  And because of that, because she had never behaved in any way that would have suggested she wanted to be the Top, the only thing I could do, other than close my gaping mouth at the shock of hearing something like that, was to admire her for her strength, her courage and ultimately, her guts.

I remember exactly what happened that day, the day before everything would change. Which had started as any of the countless number of days before it, when I was the dominant spouse. .  Snow and thunder had rumbled throughout the night, it was Sunday morning, during breakfast, with the smell of strong coffee brewing in the kitchen, that she sat herself down in front of me at the kitchen table, just like she had done dozens of previous Sundays, casually dressed up, neat, looking innocent, and looked me straight in the eyes with an intensity that caused me to lower my eyes…  I will remember that intensity for the rest of my life, and the low, practically guttural sound she made when she realized that she had just won one of her most important battles.  It was as if she was glad and relived that she had passed that test she had set for herself.

She stared at me for what felt like a life time, with a smile on her face, looking lovely, and with a voice that I had never heard before, told me:

“Honey…  Things are going to change around the house from now on.  YOU (emphasizing that work put pointing one of fingers at me), YOU, from now will be doing exactly as I please.  YOU will be my submissive male, and when I want you to be, you’ll also be my own sexy little bitch!”

I don’t remember much about my response was after that statement, only that quickly got up, motioned me to follow her to the bedroom where we had the most glorious sex we ever had.

I will not go into too many details, but suffice it to say that I loved every second of that very first time, and I have loved her with a passion and intensity ever since.  I am truly her submissive male, I am sometimes ever her sexy bitch, and it is an experience that has changed my life.  And one I would gladly advise to any of your readers who are sitting on the bench right thinking about it, but not ready to take the plunge.

DO. How to be a submissive male is easier than you think, and when female dominance is asserted, the one thing the Dominant wife can be assured of is the ever growing affection and love of her submissive male.

It’s not that I liked it when  takes guts to admit that I love being my wife’s bitch.  Think about it.  Would you like it? Because a man who is a bitch to his wife is so much more than just a submissive man.  And because really, at the end of it of it all, it’s mostly a sexual trip.