How about that for a novel idea: Pegging your boyfriend (or husband) not only because it feels good (IF you do it well, both you and your man will love your newly found “freedom”) but also because a man who’s been “fucked” in the ass by his wife nearly always “comes” (yeah I know) out of this ass exploration a better, more compassionate, playful, appreciative and attentive lover. And which woman in her right mind wouldn’t want that? I thought so.

As a Dominant woman, I have known for a long time that male anal exploration is a path (pardon the pun) to some pretty erotic “prostrate pleasure” and it is practice that my boyfriends (over the years, in succession, several men), eventually (and quite voluntarily) always succumb to, very much to their inordinate orgasmic surprises.

Even though, my male friends and I have been enjoying this for as long as I can remember, there is a book (which I should probably have written myself) which makes the very same claims: “The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners. (Try to say that if you’re a man who is being pegged!).  Written by Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian I highly encourage you to read it!

Now you might think that pegging men is only possible when the male has bisexual tendencies, is mostly submissive, and is nearly always unsure of his masculinity. Indeed I have heard that argument made to me by a number of people many times. In other words, the contention of some is that the only reason why my men surrender themselves to anal penetration is because they are my subs, and as such, might not be particularly secure in their masculinity.

Of course, nothing is further from the truth. Any man (in an hetero sexual relationship) who submits to anal play is not only straight but more importantly, is in fact extremely confident about his own masculine abilities and the very male nature of his masculinity.

And he doesn’t even have to be submissive either. At least not during the pegging action of course.

However, the idea of male pegging crosses many red lines when it comes to male psyche and or taboos. Boys are taught from a very early age that penetration is something that they do to women, and not the other way round. This idea that the male function is indeed only to penetrate someone, as opposed to being the one who is penetrated is deeply rooted. Anal penetration (pegging) goes against everything boys have been told throughout their life.  Males think of pegging in terms that are both short sighted and homophobic: “Penetration is something that gay men do the other gay men, or something that woman might do to a sissy husband, with all the connotations that the very word “sissy” conjures up.”

In fact, males will shrug their shoulders and think nothing of being called “pricks” or “dicks” but try and call them “pussy” or “cunt” or “asshole” and their reaction will be completely different.

In other words, penetration is an act of dominance and a man who is “pegged” by a woman surrenders his dominance and becomes the submissive.  For a man, penetrating a woman (or a man) is what makes him a man.  As a result males believe that by turning the tables, by allowing their wife (girlfriend) to penetrate them, they become less “male” and thus are rarely willing to switch roles.

And this is no just a man’s preconception either.  Women are conditioned to think that they are the ones who are the “penetrated”, it’s their “birthrights”, their “obligations” as women, and the idea that they would “do” their men in the ass is a notion that they are not comfortable with.  “It’s not what’s suppose to happen” women often tell me.  For some women, it goes even further as the idea of anal penetration bring doubts in their mind as to the real nature of their man.  “He is secretly gay?”  Or:  “Will I lose respect for him after I have pegged him?”

Luckily, for both males and females, things are changing and the idea of pegging is becoming more acceptable. Which is a good thing because ask any couple who is indulging in male pegging and the overwhelming response you’ll get is that they’re have a blast doing it!

And for good reasons.  Males who are being pegged discover that there is such as as anal (prostate) pleasure and whilst the idea of being dominated by their woman is highly erotic for many pegged men, the pleasure of the act is what drives them to want it over and over again.

Now I am not contending that from now on you should only “do” your husband in the ass, and that your strap-on dildo will be your best friend for ever, but the occasional pegging is indeed something that you really should consider.

Finally, there is the fear that anal sex (whether it is done on a woman or on a man) is painful or that the very fact that it is supposed to be painful is the true reason why men who want to fuck their women in the ass want to do it in the first place.  In order words, they enjoy giving pain and if that is the case, they fear that by being at the receiving end themselves, it is the female who will enjoy inflicting that pain on them.  And of course, this is utter garbage.  If your man thinks that way, you haven’t prepared him well enough.  Pegging is a whole lot of fun.  Just be careful with it and leave the strap on for later.

Good Pegging then, boys and girls!