I am a Dominant woman.

I have been married for a number of years, and in bed, my husband has always been my submissive.

I like the idea of power play and even role reversal between a man and a woman, and a long time ago, I discovered that when it came to sex, I always liked to be the Dominant party.  (The Top).

Luckily for me, my submissive husband didn’t need a lot of convincing and was more than willing to let me take charge when it came to matters of the bedroom. So he became the “bottom”.

That doesn’t mean that I think I am superior to my husband, or that he is not my equal, but the best way I would define any submissive male (or female) is that first they are my equal and only then do I look upon them as submissive.

This is an important point.  Many people write to me complaining that their “sub” is not “obedient”, “docile” (insert your own word) enough, and they want to know what they should do to “put them in their place!”

So let me make one thing perfectly clear.  A “D / s” relationship is not one where a person can be “put in his/her place”! In other words, you cannot Dominate a person who doesn’t want to be dominated.

In a Dominant submissive relationship, Dominance is cool, but domineering is definitely not!  Dominance has to be earned.  It takes a special kind of person to deserve the trust of a submissive, and unfortunately most people who are interested in this do not quite grasp this essential notion.

And since I am talking about myths and misconceptions, whilst a Dominatrix is always Dominant, the reverse is not always true.

Men who consult Dominatrix are not in it for the sex and a Dominatrix will never indulge in such.

Still…  It doesn’t matter how many new words are invented to coin the world of D/s (that’s Dominant / submissive if you didn’t know) as long as it entails male submission, I am it. In other words, as a woman, I function better when men do what I tell them to do.

I do realize though that many women love the idea of being submissive themselves.  Just think about the popularity of the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy.  So if this site can help you reach that state when surrendering to your man feels like the safest, most wonderful thing on earth, then you have no idea how humble I will be to have been of some help.

Be Sexy. Learn.  Explore. Have fun…