My little husband always knew that I was a dominant woman. After all, I am the one who seduced him one evening at our local pub, and I have been in control of him ever since. Being dominant comes easily for me. You could say it’s in my nature to dominate and little hubby man loved everything about it. He loved the reversal of roles and was uniquely turned on by the idea that as a dominant female, I was the “predator” and he the “prey”.
It was the best of both worlds for us. I am Top, my favorite position, and he is bottom, also a favorite of mine. But anyone who’s experimented with the whole Dominance / submissive lifestyle will tell you that is an ongoing learning process, both for the person who submits, but also, (even more so perhaps), for the person who is in control. And this process also requires that both parties, on occasions, switch roles, so that from time to time, when either my little hubby man feels more dominant or I become willing to be his “submissive little girl” for a couple of hours, we do switch. It’s a unique experience which enables us to keep our perspective intact and gives us a wonderful insight into what it is that makes us who we are.
If anything, these “switching” experiments confirm that I just love to be in control, and I am really comfortable with being who I am. A really dominant woman. As for the little hubby man of mine, assuming the ephemeral role of dominance only to relinquish it shortly thereafter re-affirms what he has always known, after he met me. He loves to feel my power, my control and the aftermath of those reversals always brings about the more intense sex we ever have.
It is when he returns to being what he was born to be, that my husband tells me he wants me to take even more complete control over him. I suppose it is a natural reaction, as if his mind is telling him off for the fact that he tried to be someone he is not meant to be. Even as part of role play which we indulge in during our power exchange games. It is a very sweet time for me as well since he becomes much more subservient then he already is, treats me like his main purpose in life is to serve me, which women are are dominant will tell you they are of course entitled to.
It is also after one of those sessions that I introduced him to bondage for the first time. And to pain, as a reward for being such a good little hubby boy! Bondage and pain, in our case always comes with sex, but sex, as any BDSM couple will tell you, is not the main reason why people who are in that lifestyle indulge in this delicious activity. In fact, I know couples who are really into BDSM and for whom sex (or sexual / physical gratification) in not the driving force in their relationship.
Still for this dominant woman, and her little hubby man, sex is definitely something we love to have, and in our case, BDSM is something we use to make things more “challenging”.
So yes! Being me is really lovely. And little hubby loves me for it.