Listen up ladies, and gentlemen. If you are curious about Dominant submissive relationships but you are not ready or willing to enter into the D’s lifestyle, then you have to use the delicious method of Role Pay Dominant submissive as it is exactly what you need. Besides, ff you are not using role play, then you have no idea what you are missing.
As a Dominatrix, my actions and words towards my subs, (my submissive males tuned into slaves) are always extremely real and precise. There is no “double entente”. It is what it is. My Dominance over them starts in the bedroom and extends to every aspect of their lives. It is how I like it. If they don’t, well they know where the front door is… I’m usually the one who opens it for them. And I’ll even facilitate their exist by an appropriately placed kick, and if you are a submissive male, you know exactly what this means…
However, a Dominatrix lifestyle is not for every woman. And it doesn’t matter the level of Dominance you as woman has. (Or your wife if as you are a submissive male reader yourself, as most of you guys are.) Some women are simply not interested in taking their natural disposition to everything they do in life. In other words, for many women, in all aspects of day to day life, their relationship must be based on equal rights, but when it comes to sex, then the idea of dominating their males is all together different. For them, Dominance is all about sex. And of course, this is one absolutely delicious way to spend any amount of time as you go about whipping your man, and all the other yummy ways any woman has when she sets her mind up to be all that she can be.
Still, not all women (or their men) want to use whips, clamps, restrainer when they make love and I know of many people for whom pain is simply not something they want to experience. But they would oh so love to dip their toes (and whatever else) into the realm of D/s. (Dominance / Submission).
So what can they do?
Use Adult Role Play for the Dominant and the submissive
What is particularly exciting about this type of adult roleplay is that it allows both men and women to taste what it feels to be the Dominant and the submissive. Lots of couples use this method to “switch” roles. If one of you wants to be a submissive for a while, this is exactly how to do it.
But first a disclaimer…
Whether you are in an actual D/s lifestyle, or just want to use adult roleplay to experience the thrills of submissive and dominance dynamics in a sexual context, guidelines must be established before you start anything. If one of you says to the other: “I want to be a submissive”, doesn’t mean that sexual assault is allowed.
In any Dominant submissive Relationship, no one can EVER be forced to do anything without his/her consent. This is particularly applicable to (some) men who think that because their woman wants to be submissive, she can then be assaulted by her man. So… submissive women and their dominant males wannabes, take heed. Again, I will use myself as an example… Anyone wanting to be a Dominant, must know how to be a submissive. It is the way it is. Only when you have been the sub to someone will know what it feels and how, as a sub, do you want to be treated. I was fortunate. The man I chose to be my Dominant what the sweetest, most gentle man you could ever meet. He was a natural Dominant and knew that a sub needs to feel loved and protected (and SAFE) even in the middle of a private flogging.
So now that’s out of the way… Let’s talk about some Adult Role Play scenarios…
The rape role play.
Whether man or woman, being raped is a fantasy that is very common. Of course when it comes to raping, it is unfortunately almost instinctive that the person who is being raped is always the woman. And it is true that submissive women who have a clear desire to be dominated sometimes fantasize about being raped. I will admit to having had this fantasy, particularly when I was younger. But I can also tell you that men have this fantasy as well, and it involves a strapon of course. But other than that, the elements of the rape are the same, whether the person who is raped is female or male. Here are some of those elements that make most people weak in the knees:
Being “forced” to do something that I (secretly) want to be done to you. In other words, you would never willingly walk into a dark alley hoping to be forcefully taken by a stranger, but you might very well fantasize about this.
Never seeing the assailant. A variance to the above, but this time you’re in complete darkness and you cannot see who is raping you.
One more thing about the rape fantasy. The majority of men are uncomfortable with this. For the very good reason that they know they would never do it in real life and would probably hang any man who ever did by the balls. If they could. In other words, because raping is against everything a real man believes in. So ladies, it is important that you explain how you trust him, that you would not give him this “primal” control if you didn’t feel completely safe with him and that you know that he would stop anytime you felt uncomfortable with the whole notion.
Him or Her…
There is a strict set of rules for those who are in the D/s lifestyle. A sub can never talk about his Mistress (he Master) by using the words “Him”, “Her”, “He”, “She” (notice the capital H which must be used when words are written, and I strongly recommend the use of emails in which you set to tone). Calling Him “Sir” for example is a good start. Calling Her “Mistress” is even better. In the midst of passion, I often call my sub words that I would never use in any other circumstance. You are my bitch. Cock sucker. Cock whore…
Role Play is perfect for that